The people-pleasing pattern involves an emotional need to please others, often at the expense of pleasing ourselves. This causes a loss of respect for self and others, a loss of control of direction in life, and increased feelings of guilt and frustration. This can inhibit us from being fully happy with ourselves and satisfied in our relationships. We can begin to interrupt this by reflecting on what fear or worry is motivating us to not establish healthy boundaries. Is it a fear of sounding/looking silly, losing an important relationship, or experiencing retaliation from a person or group?