There are many decorative essential oil “burners” available. We have all seen them! They are generally a ceramic or glass unit with a saucer for the oil and a rim for holding a little tea candle beneath. This is a cheap, quick and dirty way to scent a room…for the uninitiated. They are typically sold with “Aromatherapy” in the product name. When aromatic use is the desired application, those who know better will chose a proper essential oil vaporizer  regardless of the initial expense. The reason is that heating essential oils in the stone age way changes their composition and diminishes their intended therapeutic value. Essential oil vaporizer technology has come a long way in the last decade and there are certainly many styles and price points to chose from. It is easy to obtain one that suits your purpose and taste.

Nelson Meggitt, www.optimumwellnessfactor.ca

Make sure to have your tax return filed on or before April 30th. This will ensure that you will not be penalized for being late or have to pay interest on outstanding amounts. Plus, if you have a refund coming, the sooner you file, the sooner you get your refund back. When returns have not been filed with Canada Revenue Agency (CRA) on time, eventually you can expect to hear from them with a request to file your returns.  Ignoring these requests long enough will usually result in an arbitrary assessment of CRA’s estimates of your income and tax payable.  These assessments are often quite “generous” in their estimates of the income you earn and the resulting estimated tax payable will usually get your attention quickly. If you have fallen behind in your tax filings, talk to your accountant.  They can help you assess your situation, prepare accurate tax filings and help determine your best possible course of action.

Derek L. Chase, CPA, CA, CIRP, www.chasesekulich.com

Does your pet need a dental procedure? Cleaning? Extractions?  Your pets’ yearly wellness exams usually include an examination of their teeth, mouths and gums. But it’s not surprising that many of us don’t think too much about periodontal disease in our pets…at least not until something starts to look…or smell…bad! Often, there are no obvious signs, but just as with humans, our pets’ overall well-being is very dependent on the state of their teeth and gums. Infections, gingivitis, broken teeth and other mouth disease all can have very adverse effects on their systemic health, as well as being just as painful to them as it is for us. Your Veterinary family can help with tutorials on dental home care and prevention; treatment may include diet, oral rinses, special treats and brushing. In necessary cases, X-rays and dental procedures should be performed in clinic, under anesthesia.

Marina, www.puntledgevet.ca

Spring is upon us, a time for rejuvenation, and a time to reconnect with Nature. It is imperative that we do. For centuries indigenous peoples have been in harmony with the universal spirit in plants, animals, rocks, and water. This energy is all around us and now there is a worldwide awakening for the knowledge and understanding of plant intelligence. Each of us have the opportunity to connect with plants on a spiritual level, to work in harmony with Nature and to receive their direction and healing. If you have a longing to share this energy with plants on a deeper level, “Plant Spirit Healing” by Pam Montgomery is a must read.

Gord Weber

Helicopter parents are obsessed with their children’s success.  Obsession is considered an unhealthy fixation. On the contrary, a healthy obsession is what most people, characterize as a purpose for living. Most people are either searching for purpose, passion in life or already living it. A healthy obsession provides and history shows, the key to becoming greatly successful. Our powerful mind, when it becomes curious about something and passion grows, can manifest beyond imagination. Studies suggest helicopter parents’ good intentions can squash the initial curiosity and growing passion of a child. Trying to force a fledgling interest into a passion in order to guarantee success has led to many children dropping out, failing etc. Passion is internal, inspired and grows naturally. Once our curiosity has surpassed then passion can develop. Can success then stem from curiosity?  Year of the Monkey get curious first, passion and success will follow.

Roxanne Derkson, www.vivitherapy.com

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is attributed to the body’s coping with experiencing or witnessing traumatic stress. It can be ignited by a variety of events; either emotional, physical, sexual violence, war, a car accident or through natural disasters or the daily stress of being a care giver or professional health care provider. Symptoms may include: flash backs and or nightmares, avoidance/numbing, estrangement from others, states of hypervigilance, fear of constant danger, poor sleep, body pain, low mood, depression, suicidal thoughts or action and a loss of a sense of ones-self. Massage Therapy works well in conjunction with other cognitive therapies for treatment of PTSD. Massage assists people to be more comfortable in their own skin, to learn to relax and be in the present moment.  Studies show that massage may improve associated symptoms such as chronic pain, immune system deficiencies, stress, depression and anxiety.

Kelly Gerhart RMT,  www.courtenaymassagetherapy.com

The Fair Fight

Fighting fairly can be healthy for relationships. It can solve problems, clear the air, reinforce communication skills, and provide objectivity, and sometimes more insight than one wishes for into one’s own behaviour. It can also enhance self-esteem, and reinforce the value of your relationship. The positive intention behind a fight is as an expression of caring—we don’t fight with people over things we don’t care about. However, to do it well, without becoming entrenched or destructive, we need some basic guidelines.

Rules for Fair Fighting:

1. Most fights have to do with diminished self-esteem, or feeling hurt or wounded somehow. Before you start an argument, ask yourself, “What exactly is bothering me? What do I need or want? Are my feelings in proportion to the issue?”
2. Focus on “I” statements such as “I think” and “I feel” rather than “You should” or “You shouldn’t.” Generally, if you try to control another person’s behaviour it won’t be appreciated and you won’t achieve the end result you want.
3. Watch too, for the words “never” or “always”— as in “you never, or you always” being tossed about. In fact, avoid generalizations as a rule, as they tend towards being unfair, unanswerable, and put the other person on the defensive.
4. Listen, no matter how painful it is, and aim to be curious. This person may have important things to say that can help you learn about yourself. Ask questions about the other person’s perspective. Sometimes, even if we don’t agree with a viewpoint, we can see why someone may see a problem a certain way.
5. Be assertive, not aggressive. Be specific about what you want, and what outcomes are acceptable to you. And ask the other person to propose solutions also. Be prepared to say what you’ll do if things don’t change, but don’t threaten, nag, intimidate, call names, or make judgmental statements. Cruelty is never acceptable and at times may be unforgivable.
6. Never get physical. If you don’t think you or the other person can maintain control, leave the situation, returning only when people are calmer. Sometimes involving a third party such as a counsellor helps people stay safe emotionally and communicate more peacefully.
7. Don’t fight when impaired. Generally, we want to bring our best selves to the table when we need to sort out a big relationship issue, and drinking, drugs and lack of sleep all impair judgment enough that things may get said that are regrettable later.
8. No “kitchen sink” arguments in which every unresolved grievance ever conceived is dredged up and thrown into the ring. If you find yourself wrestling with museum issues, bring them up when you have set aside some time to work on them specifically.
9. Don’t fight in front of the kids. Save fighting for when you are alone with your partner. If you feel it can’t wait, you are too angry anyway and need to cool down first. And if your kids do see you argue, make sure that also see you make up. Kids need to know parents are resolving their issues.
10. Always have a way out — a pre-determined code word for partners can help both people defuse a situation. For example, preemptively agree that the word “pineapple” uttered by either of you mid-fight means, “We have to stop now, I’m too upset to feel safe right now with myself or with you, or I’m frustrated because we are going around in circles.”
11. Be willing to compromise. Share where you might be flexible and where you are not willing to be flexible clearly and out loud with your partner. In fact, don’t rely on mind reading to help you fight your fight.
12. Don’t shy away from asking for help. We add skills on when we need them, and often learn easily with good teachers when we are ready.
13. Learning to fight well is learning to fight fair, and is a life skill. Communication skills take practice. Be patient with yourself and be patient with your partner.

Caroline Bradfield MaCP, RCC. Comox Valley Family Counselling
www.comoxvalleycounselling.ca

CleanseSMART is an advanced herbal cleansing program. It is formulated to stimulate the detoxification process of the body’s 7 channels of elimination: the liver, lungs, colon, kidneys, blood, skin, and lymphatic system. The morning cleanse supports detoxification; the evening cleanse promotes elimination, so you wake up feeling better, lighter, and more energized. In today’s toxic world, cleansing and detoxification is imperative. Toxins enter our body through the air we breathe, the food we eat, and the water we drink. Over time, these toxins build up and slowly start to affect our health in a negative way. Reducing the toxic load in your body decreases the risk of developing chronic health problems, improves overall health and immune response, and can increase energy levels. It’s also great knowing that CleanseSMART is free from yeast, animal products, binders, dairy, fillers or artificial ingredients, gluten, salt, soy, sugar and wheat.

Jeanie Bruneau, Jeannie’s Vitamins